So for the past 2 days I have been jobless, last Friday
after my shift my boss called me at 7PM while I was at Mcdonald’s and told me
that the company was letting go of a few people. Of course I was one of them.
They didn’t give me an explanation or anything like that, just a simple: “It
was a decision made after much consideration” and a reassurance that they would
give me a reference if needed. So there was a silver lining.
You see
that is what the focus is my readers; there is always something optimistic to
focus on in life. In any situation the world may throw your way, humanity
should look at it as an opportunity to grow, to move forward. I’ve taken on the
habit of calling this simple belief system handling things with love. The idea
stems from a life coach who I’ve been following; Coach Corey Wayne. He states (Sorry
if I misquote a bit) the idea in the terms of relationships, the concept is
simple and something I believe all of us should know. If your significant other
is upset, if they would like to take a break or break things off with you or if
there is an argument, handle it with love. The concept is more black and white
than it sounds I believe in all honesty.
I speak
in examples in real life and so I believe writing it this way will probably
work best for me too.
Picture
this, you have a wife or a husband and you find out that they have been
cheating on you with a co-worker or even a close friend that they have. For months
you have been asking them about this person because you have had your suspicions.
For months they have assured you that nothing has been going on, that the long
nights are for work, or with other friends, that the texts are nothing as
serious as you are assuming, they have you going crazy, acting like a stalker,
constant arguments, mental breaks, losing yourself to the pitfall in this
relationship. Eventually they admit it, maybe you found out about them. Maybe –
God forbid- there is a baby getting involved out of wedlock.
If the
above becomes a reality, if you are forced to leave them or they leave you for
any reason it would be understandable to be upset. You would be in the right to
be upset, to yell and scream. But the idea behind the concept of handling harsh
situations with love requires firstly that all of that anger and that rage be moved passed, looked beyond and that it be
allowed to dissipate in a way. Yes, I understand that sadness and anger are reasonable,
especially when you have been wronged, but rather than allow it to control you
and cause you to lash out, stalk their social media, attack their new
relationship in someway and bad mouth them to your friends and family or even
their friends and family. Most relationships that I have seen at least end harshly,
with verbal violence and even in some cases physical violence, they end because
one or both parties feel hurt and wronged. They allow their love to be diminished
because the terms of their relationship have changed in a way that they did not
want it to. In most cases one party ended it themselves because they don’t feel
the same way that they used to before when the relationship was “Good”. The other one, the “Victim” in a sense, begs
and pleads and tries to get the first to reconsider or they just get angry and
allows them to go after a few harsh words, they allow their love to be replaced
with malice.
But
through what I will call research into countless readings of the relationship teachings
of experts and comparing it to the actions and mistakes in other relationships of
friends and family members. I’ve deduced that what they are attempting to teach
is that when something horrible happens when someone does you wrong you must
let them go with love, allow them to walk away if that is what they really want,
you must smile and look to the bright side. Smile at them and tell them how you
feel calmly with a gentle voice, ask them why, if you need to and then let them
be, wish them happiness inside your heart and outwardly, tell them that you
love them if you still do but don’t try to argue with them or change their
mind, let what YOU want be known and let them make the decision to follow through.
Inside yourself
you must embrace your anger and your sorrow, the negativity cannot be avoided
and it should not be diluted by things like liquor and drugs. Don’t let yourself
wallow in things like self-isolation. Recognize that you feel this way, think
about why you feel this way and for maybe about 3 or 4 days let yourself feel
it so that it runs its course, then focus on yourself, think about something bigger
than the thing that hurt you. A dream, travelling, think of something positive
and surround yourself with things that are positive.
This
goes for more than just relationships, life itself has its pitfalls, it also
has its own tendency to do you emotional harm. Just like if it were your lover
or partner were to do you this type of harm, it is in your best interest to look
to the situation with optimism, to look to the future and allow this obstacle
to become an opportunity. Never forget that one bad moment, one lapse in luck is
not at all the end, every second of your life is a chance to advance your
mission and purpose in life, to become a better version on you. Inside you is
love and love is ultimately positive, love is optimistic and it is true
happiness. Once you have realized that within you is an endless expanse of love
and acceptance for all things, for all situations, after you can master this
frame of mind you will find that you will smile more, you will have more energy
and the little things that happen, things that once made you angry will no
longer matter. You will be happier, less agitated, more positive you.
You will look at life with love.
I will at some point be referring some self-help books that
I have been reading and life coaches that you might want to look into if you feel
as though this information offer assistance or help. If you feel as though you
need help. Admitting this is the first step to becoming who you truly need to
be.
What I am currently reading is: The Edgar Cayce Handbook For
Creating Your Future.
It is very informative, I will go over some of the points in
this book as I read through it a bit more and finish it.
Remember you must read these books at least 10-15 times. And
truly study and understand it.
You are an amazing person whoever you are and deserve to be
who you truly want and are meant to be.
